Ten years ago, I saw a person in the parking lot of our building. Although dressed like a woman, there were physical markers that told me they were a man. I pointed this out to the person with me and remarked at how strange it felt to me to see that. I was perpetuating a stereotype I had learned. I was in the wrong to do so, and to that person standing in the parking lot, and to all of the transgender community, I apologize. I am sorry. I was insensitive and lacked education.
Five years ago, I worked with a person who was living their authentic life, and I misgendered them in front of other co-workers. They corrected my use of pronouns, and I apologized, but I still didn't understand what I had done wrong. I was still uneducated but open to a new way of thinking.
To that former co-worker, I am deeply sorry. I did not know any better at that time. I do now.
Three years ago, I met a fantastic human being with whom I became friends. I met him when he was living a different life, trying to fake happiness. I watched him transition rather publicly, and he allowed me to ask questions without judgement. He helped educate me. I learned, and am still learning because of his friendship. He provided a safe space for all. To him, I say Thank You. For everything. Thank you for not jumping when you wanted to. Thank you for providing a safe space for us uneducated people to ask questions so we can learn and grow. Thank you for helping me grow into the person I am becoming - one who has a big heart, full of love for everyone.
To those that are reading this, please know that tomorrow is International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia.
I have been witness to hatred toward people who I care about, simply because of who they are and the biases towards them.
I ask you all, please learn to let go of your limiting beliefs. Let love win. Love for all our fellow human beings.
To my friends, I promise to continue learning and growing.
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